(Its OK Not to Share and Other Renegade Rules for Raising Competent and Compassionate Kids) [E–pub] ☆ Heather Shumaker
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Out of insecurity or an editor s prodding I know it s tricky to sell a parenting book when the author doesn t have a platform or isn t a parenting expert but that s how I would rame the book That s what makes it an interesting sell What T Berry Brazelton says is interesting but I m sold on her strategies because they make sense to me on some core level and because she s not overselling them Parenting books are always going to be a mixed bag and people are going to read those that seem to support their ideals creating a kind o Some of it I love some of it I will not incorporate into our life Some of the chapters were not convincing at all even while relying on child development specialists to make her point While I wouldn t say No to weapon play I would also not buy my child a toy gun Just as I wouldn t buy an American girl doll It is important Beowulf is my name (Rinehart editions, 146) for me being the one who buys the toys that I am supporting what I believe is a good company a good kind of toy etc I loved the overall themes of letting children play and many of my pet peeves like telling kids not to run or to be careful were included Lots of good stuff but there were too many sections that I really didn t like and therefore Iinished the book eeling like I can t really recommend the book without a giant disclaimer that some of it is not on the right path in my opinion There s a lot about this book that I really admire the emphasis on protecting play encouraging kids to work out their own social relationships and empowering adults to parent how they d like I like 99% of the research she journalistically cites although I wish she had proper endnotes or ootnotes and a lot of researchers A Gentleman for Dry Creek (Dry Creek, feel like oldriendsThe book Trail of Evidence (Capitol K-9 Unit focuses on the preschool years and the progressive preschool where Shumaker went and where her mom still teaches is the ideal There s definitely an emphasis on Best handbookor parents of preschoolers Ever Most of one s success in life is based on using plain simple common sense Most of one s success raising children should be based on common sense too Ms Shumaker s book drips with common sense on every page Her main premise is instead of trying to raise our children to become mini adults we should use common sense to understand the why s of their behaviors and then raise them to become the best children they can be with appropriate challenges and success at each stage of their development She Architecture by Birds and Insects feels this is the most effective methodor helping them become successful adultsWhat I see as her overarching rule of rules is her Renegade Rule 2 It s OK if it s not hurting people or property My translation let kids be kids Allow them to make noise make messes wrestle and roughhouse with each other by mutual agreement have arguments be selfish and hog a toy Beyond Carnival for the entire day say almost anything with certain limitations play during 99% of theirree time and All children as well as on the work of child psychologists pediatricians educators and so on in this book Shumaker gets to the heart of the matter on a host of important uestions Hint many of the rules aren’t what you think they areThe “rules” in this book Microsociology focus on the toddler and preschool years an important timeor laying the Lefty foundationor competent and compassionate older kids and then adults Here are a ew of the rules • It’s OK if it’s not hurting people or prop.
Ake believe any antasy they can dream of even if that Shadow of the Vampire fantasy appears to be violent on the surface AS LONG AS IT S NOT HURTING PEOPLE OR PROPERTYTheormat is laid out simply logically and clearly Twenty nine rules each with its own chapter Each chapter explains the rule the reason Statistical Computing in C++ and R for the rule why it works with children what you might object to initially case studies or examples of the rule in action and Renegade Blessings and Children s Rights whichurther help reinforce this new way of thinking Human Aspects of Software Engineering for parentsEach chapter also contains step by step procedures and suggestionsor implementing a new rule Ms Shumaker also deals with the inevitable clash between old and new cultures and how to deal with How to Make a Plant Love You for example parents who believe it s abhorrent to let young children indulge in any sort of violent or aggressiveantasy or game She acknowledges there will be Cities and Dialogue friction between parents with different parenting philosophies and provides handy explanations and justificationsor the Renegade parent to gently educate another parent in how to accept a Renegade Parent s styleBottom line I usually conk out reading in bed by eleven o clock but It s OK NOT to Share was such a page turner it kept me up reading well past midnight on two occasions This is the best book I ve read this year and one of the best nonfiction books I ve read in many years I am loving this book I wish all parents would read it When I Christmas Doll first saw it in the Netgalley catalog I was startled by the title It s OK Not to Share and Other Renegade Rulesor Raising Competent and Compassionate Kids by Heather Shumaker Tarcher 2012 Not share Isn t that the Dark Tide Rising (William Monk first thing we teach our babies during play dates I was delighted by some of the concepts in this parenting book not because I agreed with it all but because it opened my mind to different ways to approach teaching my children about relationships compassion and dealing with the ups and downs of lifeI liked Ms Shumaker s explanationsor the renagade rules If we make children say sorry they learn that they can say a word and go on with playing If we teach them to stop and notice that another child is hurt or crying they learn sincerity and compassion Let them decide to say sorry but do help them notice what they ve done Similarly if we The Internet Book force a child to share a coveted swing he may resent the parent and the other child If we alert him to theact that others want a turn and let him choose when to get off the swing he may learn to be sensitive to those around himAlthough I obviously won t implement all the renegade rules I certainly appreciated the eye opening look at a different way to parent I appreciate the thoughts on how our The Queen from Provence (Plantagenet Saga, forced compassion backires and I intend to reconsider my responses to my young children in the Fearless Jack future In all It s OK Not to Share is a worth while reador parents seeking ideasCross posted on my blog. Erty • Bombs guns and bad guys allowed • Boys can wear tutus • Pictures don’t have to be pretty • Paint off the paper • Sex ed starts in preschool • Kids don’t have to say “Sorry” • Love your kid’s lies IT’S OK NOT TO SHARE is an essential resource or any parent hoping to avoid PLAYDATEGATE ie your child’s behavior in a social interaction with another child clearly doesn’t meet with another parent’s approv.
(Its OK Not to Share and Other Renegade Rules or Raising Competent and Compassionate Kids) E–pub ☆ Heather Shumaker
Terrific book Parents should always build their own parenting styles and practices on belief and practice a parent who Tarascon Pediatric Emergency Pocketbook feel rock solid comfortable with their own ideas will make their kidseel comfortable too knowing that mom and dad stand or something have some non negotiables So I wouldn t advise anyone to use this as a manualWith that said the book is ull of different ways to look at common practices Say you re sorry and can serve as a spur to re thinking some of the things you learned in your own childhood At that re The Success Secrets Of Brian Tracy - How To Achieve Your Goals And Be Succesful framing many of the common dilemmas of parenting Shumaker is superb If you are a parent read this book It is my absoluteavorite parenting book now I can t say enough good about it It has changed the way I and my husband parent the way I interact with nieces and nephews even the way I teach my our year old class at church Everything she teaches is based off of the rights the children and parents have she gives examples of application shares some specific things you should and shouldn t say in certain situations and even shares ideas or how to handle other parents who parent differently than you This is the best parenting book I ve ever picked up I really liked the Murder of Crows fresh perspective this book took on parenting and I intend to utilize several strategies Iound here In many ways some of these ideas were a huge relief My son was Montessori schooled through kindergarten and it was mostly a good it or him not unfortunately Silence in Hanover Close (Charlotte Thomas Pitt, for my daughter but one thing my husband and I still laugh about to this day is how seriously the teachers took roughhousing and how we were even instructed to eliminate it at our house My husband s evening wrestling matches with my son wererowned upon even though in some ways they were my son s lifeblood and enabled him to get through the task heavy days at school So I am very excited to get the imprimatur The Complete Idiots Guide to Starting a Web-Based Business from the author to let the kids run roughshod as they roughhouse There were some sections I disagreed withor example exclusion based on gender is simply never going to happen in my house I see too much of that kind of exclusion mostly Tiểu phẩm báo chí from girls I hate to say it in my son s school It s confusing and iturther deepens a divide that Icon frankly doesn t have to be there But the author is good about saying that not all of these rules need to beollowed in Pillow Talk fact she says she doesn t evenollow all of themMy uibbles are Rikers High fairly minor There was some sloppy repetition in the text that could have been eliminated sometimes verbatim within the same section I alsoelt the author relied Buried far too heavily on the teachers at her mother s preschool when she was looking to add some expert support to her ideas I thought the most effective aspect of the book was the author s confidence her commonsense suggestions and tactics not the supporting of the case she seemed moved to dorom time to time whether. Parenting can be such an overwhelming job that it’s easy to lose track of where you stand on some of the controversial subjects at the playground What if my kid likes to rough house isn’t this ok as long as no one gets hurt And what if my kid just doesn’t eel like sharing In this inspiring and enlightening book Heather Shumaker describes her uest to nail down “the rules” to raising smart sensitive and self sufficient kids Drawing on her own experiences as the mother of two sm.
Heather Shumaker writes books for children and adults She began writing books in elementary school and is now an award winning author of several books for adults The Griffins of Castle Cary is her first book for childrenBefore she became an author Heather tried many jobs including milk maid sailor llama trek guide and fire crew She also lived at the South Pole and sorted garbage and recyc