Facing Love Addiction) [Pdf] ✓ Pia Mellody
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First 3 pages had me in tears I learned a lot about myself my significant other and my relationships with my parents I recommend this book to anyone struggling with any type of relationship Very informative though a bit repetitive and somewhat lengthy Nonetheless It was uite illuminating for me to find described on the written page what my previous relationships have been like and the pitfalls that have kept me in them Already had opportunity to put this new infomation in ffect and have been able to identify a new potential pitfall and avoid it before falling in I feel mpowered after being given this new knowledge I generally liked this book in terms of covering the topic of co addicted relationships I was reading Mellody Beattie s Codependent No More at the same time which with its central focus on partners of alcoholics didn t do it for meIn particular I liked that Pia Mellody gave a very practical program and structure for breaking the patterns of co addicted relating Kudos too for giving sufficient attention to Love Avoidants something that was definitely lacking in Levine Heller s recent book on attachment theory Attached I also liked her husband Pat s contributions in Section III on what a healthy relationship looks like This is incredibly helpful to the intended readership and I would like to see of this in books on unhealthy relatingWhile I m not big on Twelve Step approaches I like some lements of them and this book invokes Steps One and Four lightly and deftly I also really appreciated the big nod to Peele Brodsky s arlier work sp considering that Peele is an opponent of Twelve Step approaches to sobriety I found myself hunting through the reference list and liking what I foundAs someone Building the Cold War else said I think this book s title accurate as it is will alienate it from a much wider readership who probably need it I think most people in long term relationships andven those simply in the mel Canadian Art, Volume 1 (A-F) e of messed up family inter relationships could gain a lot of much needed wisdom and guidance from it Fantastic bc i didntven realize this condition xisted and that I had participated in the cycle of a love addiction I knew something wasn t right but couldn t figure it out always wondering why can t someone love me This book provides a lot of insight and helps to change your approach And it doesnt have to be about a romantic relationship it can happen with a friend sister or other family member All of us deserve to learn to love in a healthy way I was let down This is a very interesting and complex topic but the author provided only a superficial analysis Writing style was sophom John Lennon and Yoko Ono were on the Dick Cavett Show in September 1971 Imagin. In this revised and updated version of Facing Love Addiction bestselling author of Facing Codependence and internationally recognized dependence and addiction authority Pia Mellody unravels the intri.
Ependency treatment I am way too perfect But this book may have value for other peopleAs an aside my parents got divorced after being married for thirty years and now they don t speak at all Fortunately they also had one of those marriages that was all bliss all the time It was the perfect relationshipJust kiddingOh and here s the Dick Cavett Interview Be warned it s a bit of a one hour wormholehttpswwwyoutubecomwatchv7kXCn If you are a big believer in the twelve step model of recovery and viewing things from an addiction framework then this book will likely resonate with youFor those of us who are less convinced that most psychological difficulties can be best treated using a recovery model this book will likely fall a bit flat Most of the phenomena she describes I think can be helpfully viewed through the lens of attachment theory which can depathologize the relationships she has described here Instead of a person being a Love Addict or a Love Avoidant it may be helpful to view them as people who have anxious or avoidant attachment styles That way the relationship itself revealing itself through problematic and perpetuating interactions can be the focus of treatment instead of labeling a person as an addictMaybe this is all just an issue of semantics but attachment theory could give those wishing to stay in their co addicted relationships a better alternative than Mellody describes here A better treatment of these issues I think can be found in the work of Sue Johnson or Levine Heller s Attached The New Science of Adult Attachment lacey made me read this one it is a 12 step model for cleaning up dysfunctional relationships and it provides work space for the steps my first xtensive Dancing at Armageddon exposure to 12 step language which made me cringe and grin plenty but i did find some useful insights for the things people do and i admit to finding some of my own uglier behaviors discussed as common asshole maneuvers humbling and helpful it is one of those take what s useful overlook what s not books Some solid interesting content in this book All in all though I had trouble following the organization and structure It somehow seemed both that there was too much content to cover in the space allotted and that there was a fair amount of repetition throughout Still some very interesting ideas that I ll be thinking and journaling about for some time I give this book 5 stars I was in a relationship where I felt mentally andmotionally unstableI don t find myself to be codependent or clingy in anyway but I knew there was a problem with the foundation of our Double Jeopardy engagement and this book helped learn me learn to detach a little bit from mymotionsLooking back on it it felt like a balm. Utlines the recovery process for Love Addicts and Mellody’s fresh perspective and clear methods work to comfort and motivate all those looking to stablish and maintain healthy happy relationships?.
E had just come out Yoko had also released a new record and a conceptual book She s sitting in the first chair and she s wearing an xpensive looking orange velvet leotard Skimpy She s got on sheer black stockings and a little beret John and Yoko hold hands a lot during the interview and fondly stroke ach other s fingers She s rather humorless deferential what a weird position for her The world saw her only as the wife of a Beatle And America wasn t uite ready for the fact that she was Japanese It s barely ready for it now Maybe still not ready for it actually Dick Cavett points out that Ono went to Sarah Lawrence I did not know that But it doesn t surprise me at all She was out there a woman making things a female artist a sharp mind I suspect she and Lennon were love addicted This is my layman s diagnosis Or maybe they were happily married no drama no codependency no cray cray It s possible but not probableThis is the thing about love addiction it often happens INSIDE a marriage It s not like sex addiction which I don t associate as much with marriage Of course sex addiction happens inside a marriage too But our stereotyped view of it or mine at least looks like the plot of Looking for Mr Goodbar or that movie Shame In Shame aptly titled the lead character runs around having sex with a string of anonymous women whoever will have him really Pia Mellody s book deals with the monogamous model a cycle of chasing and begging for love that alternates with an opposite behavior called love avoidance Sometimes one partner chases and the other is distant and avoidant Other times the partners continually switch roles in a cycle of come here go away which is xcruciating for both Mellody s recovery program for love addiction reuires tackling intimacy fears and healing wounds from childhood abandonment abuse and neglect FUNIf you ve Dark Voices ever been in love then you know that love can feel like a drug It s a thin line between love and love addiction If a love relationship is bringing pain than pleasure probably the best idea is to get out of it And if you can t get out of it maybe you re addicted to it But some of us are married and we don t want to get outThis not to say that I m not happily married I am so happily married it s a joke Every day andvery night is heaven Every minute of my marriage is pure bliss We fell in love and we have never stopped being madly and passionately in love The sex is always great We ve been together for twenty years and we ve never had a fight It s really uite something Therefore Facing Love Addiction is not a book I would ver need to read A therapist would never practically force me to buy this book after begging me for years to look into cod. Cate dynamics of unhealthy love relationships and shows us how to let go of toxic love Through twelve step work xercises and journal keeping Facing Love Addiction compassionately and realistically